Why Bring Forth And Neglect?
In recent times, the pains and rigor some couples go through to have children is alarming. Some fall victim of doctors’ prescription, exploitation from spiritual houses, native doctors and pastors alike with all efforts aimed at conception. Not forgetting the ridicule served to couples (especially the woman) by family members and in-laws because there has not been cry of a baby in their home.
Children are a source of joy and peace hence the birth of a child brings warmth to a home. It is expected that on arrival, parents do all they can to raise them. But not many envisage the rigorous efforts it takes to raise children.
With recent trends in societal development the gap between parents and children is getting wider. This spells doom for families as children battle with parents’ absenteeism and insensitivity. For the records, a good number of parents focus on providing their children’s basic need for clothing, shelter and food but rarely spend time knowing these children by developing a quality relationship of love and trust.
Jesus had this to say in Luke 14:28-30 “For which of you, intending to build a tower, sitteth not down first, and counteth the cost, whether he have sufficient to finish it? Lest haply, after he hath laid the foundation, and is not able to finish it, all that behold it begin to mock him saying, this man began to build, and was not able to finish.”
Rearing children takes dedication and discipline. It is not a task to cede to house helps. Be your children’s pride. Teach them and spend quality time to groom them in all aspects of life (Prov. 22:6). For precept must be upon precept, line upon line, here a little, and there a little (Isaiah 28:10).
Teach your child to notice things that are wrong and work on how to correct them.
Both natural and parental love should be combined with knowledge and depth of insight so as to know what is best. Your love for your children should not be distorted.
Spend time with them peacefully without making them feel that they have to do something to impress you or that they are disturbing you.
Take time to pray and play with your children and when praying/playing, allow him/her to lead as this will help you discover what they love most and God’s gift in them.
Concentrate on what your children can do rather than what they can’t do. Never make them feel they can’t please you by being themselves rather they have to always do things for daddy or mummy. Parental love implies the ability to celebrate your child’s individuality.
Take time to teach your children to believe in the beauty of life no matter what situation they are facing.
You must do what you want them to do (Jesus washed His disciples’ feet).
Allow them to always express themselves so as to know their mind.
Be careful of what you call or say to them. Count your words because every word you say counts.
Dear potential parents,
While waiting for the arrival of your child, plan effectively to receive them. Get their rooms painted in the colours you like and furnish it properly. Set up an account for them with both of you agreeing on how to make it grow while you wait. Read books and seek proper counsel in areas both of you foresee challenges. Above all pray to God for wisdom, understanding and strength to be good parents. Put your faith to work by giving names to your unborn children. Call them by their names while praying and shopping. Paint a picture of them in your mind and laugh. Sarah’s laughter became a reality in Isaac yours is no exception. Don’t let anyone steal your joy neither accept bad counsels. Children can only come from God not mermaid (Psalms 127:3-5).
Every child needs love, care and proper upbringing. The role of parents in this regard, cannot be overemphasized.